I have tried nearly everything since my incontinence started. I developed diabetes insipidus which injured my bladder from chronic distension. Nightly urine production can exceed 80oz. The Seni adult diaper line has the best tech right now. Stretch tapes, real dual waistbands, adequate leakguards and the EDS system actually moves liquid around the diaper instead of one giant growing bulge. I wear the Seni Quattro to bed with a Leakmaster PUL and don’t worry about my sleep position because it just handles it. The padding goes all the way up front and bac, and the padding is not too close to the edge of the back sheet which can cause leaks at night. The rare leg leak is handled by the PUL which also breathes and protects from any clammy feeling from a breathable diaper. I get a lot of sleep considering the diaper weighs 50oz or more each morning. Wicking is very important to sleeping comfortably, Seni diapers also do not break down wet or dry. They are also a pretty good deal.
I have to agree on the Seni Quattro. They are an EXCELLENT cloth backed diaper...the only thing I hate about them is the stretchy tapes though. Other than that, and once you get used to fastening them with the stretchy tapes so they don't slide down due to being too loose, they are EXCELLENT! I have never had a problem with them feeling clammy on the outside even when really wet. I wear them fairly often under khakis or dress pants and never have any issues with odor or anything. Otherwise, I stick wiht plastic backed diapers under jeans and heavier pants/shorts.
Yes, I have ordered ABDL diapers in the past. Frankly, most of the products aimed toward the ABDL crowd are INCREDIBLY good. As far as designs on diapers...noter me THA really a fan. But then, many guys wear boxer shorts with funky or funny designs, so it does not bother me THAT much. I am not ABDL...to me they are just underwear. As long as they keep my clothes dry and clean, I could care less what they look like...although I do shy away from pink...LOL!