So sorry You are having these issues. Incontinence can be awful. Different products and practices work for everybody. Perhaps set a timer on Your phone. To get up and go to the bathroom. Every - However many hours ? You think You need to? You can read in these forums what works for others. Unfortunately the urinary sudden flooding. Can be tough. The cheaper briefs often wont contain that. Or perhaps go up a size? I'm quadriplegic and in a wheelchair or bed. I often get no warning until its happened. I dribble leak and flood throughout the day. As well as bowel accidents. So I use the Tranquility ATN overnight briefs. There are better briefs on the market. But usually not covered by insurance. Good luck.